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The Secret to the Best Sex Ever? Monogamy Does it Better!

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Have you ever wondered if committing to one partner for the long haul could really lead to the hottest, steamiest sex you've ever had? Contrary to popular belief, monogamy has some sexy advantages that might just surprise you!


Table of Contents

  1. Monogamy Builds Intimacy and Trust
  2. You Can Take Sexual Exploration to New Heights
  3. Anticipation and Exclusivity Keep Things Exciting
  4. Consistency is Key for High Libidos
  5. It's Safer to Get Freaky in Familiar Territory
  6. Drama-Free Relationships Mean More Focus on Pleasure
  7. Spiritual and Tantric Sex is Easier with a Steady Partner


Monogamy Builds Intimacy and Trust

When you commit to just one partner, you have the opportunity to build a deep level of intimacy over time that enhances your sexual connection exponentially. Scientific research shows that emotional closeness is strongly linked to sexual satisfaction.

You Get to Know Each Other's Bodies Extremely Well

Exploring one person's unique erogenous zones, turn-ons, kinks and orgasmic responses over months and years allows you to become an expert on their pleasure. You'll notice all their subtle cues letting you know exactly how to touch them and what they want next. These little details that show your partner's preferences are impossible to learn without consistent together time between the sheets.


You Can Take Sexual Exploration to New Heights

Feeling safe and secure with a trusted life partner gives you the confidence to push your own sexual boundaries further than you might with a casual fling or new flame. Wondering what it might be like to experiment with BDSM, role play, introducing toys, or even just trying a challenging new position is way less intimidating when you know your lover has your back no matter what.

The Kink Factor Gets Kickstarted

Let's be real, you probably don't want the first date you met on Tinder getting out the whips and chains your very first intimate encounter. But when love and trust have been established over the long haul, kinky play can become an exciting way for committed couples to deepen their erotic connection behind closed doors. Get creative together without fear of judgement!


Anticipation and Exclusivity Keep Things Exciting

Allowing sexual energy to build between encounters with the same lover helps create hot tension that seriously intensifies the passion. After all, absence makes the heart (and loins!) grow fonder. When you've committed to one steady sex partner, spontaneity and longing intertwine beautifully.

Everyday Moments Get Erotically Charged

Even subtle glances and innocent touches with your monogamous mate become tantalizing foreplay when you know it's leading somewhere steamy later on. No one else gets you heated up quite like someone you've been intimate with many times has the power to do with just a flirty wink across the dinner table.


Consistency is Key for High Libidos

For those with high sex drives, having the reliability of an enthusiastic partner ready and eager to get down whenever the urge strikes is a major perk. No more worrying if your booty call will actually be available to come through or having to get back out on the singles scene to satisfy your cravings. In devoted monogamy, there's always a willing playmate when you're in the mood.

Multiple Orgasms Become Your New Normal

Want to go for round two and three in one steamy session? No problem when you have a committed lover happy to pleasure and be pleasured as many times as you have energy for without other plans or distractions getting in the way. Forget the one and done stigma, your stamina for giving and receiving sexual delight can continue for hours when you're with a caring monogamist focused solely on you.


It's Safer to Get Freaky in Familiar Territory

Choosing a faithful sex partner means significantly lowering health risks associated with sleeping around. You have the security of knowing neither of you are out spreading or catching STIs with outside partners. Bonus points if you've both recently gotten a clean bill of health as an extra safeguard before going condom free.

Your Wellbeing is a Priority

In addition to lowering exposure to infections passed through intercourse, sticking to solo sex within your relationship also protects your emotional well being. No stressing about managing a bunch of messy love triangles or worrying your partner's head could get turned at any moment. Their commitment gives you confidence they're focused solely on you.


Drama-Free Relationships Mean More Focus on Pleasure

Speaking of avoiding complications, keeping your romantic life simple by excluding additional lovers also means your energy stays centered on enjoying each other without unnecessary drama cropping up. Fewer variables to juggle means less distractions from the steamy business at hand!

Immerse Yourself in The Moment

Rather than worrying about how you compare in bed to your partner's other casual sex buddies or if they're going to run off with someone else, you can be fully immersed in every erotic experience you share knowing it's just for the two for you to savor alone together.


Spiritual and Tantric Sex is Easier with a Steady Partner

Exploring intimate energetic practices like Tantra is most powerful between partners with an established and trusting bond. The vulnerability and high level of connection required makes trying this with someone you don't know well incredibly challenging.

Journey Into Deeper Dimensions of Pleasure

Devoting yourself to someone heart, body and soul over an extended period prepares you to open up to new frontiers of erotic and spiritual awakening side by side. Once the foundation of your relationship is solid, blows both your minds with sexual techniques designed to access higher states of consciousness together.

Know someone whose love life could use some spicing up? Share this article and spread the word that monogamy gives boring sex the boot when done right! Stay tuned for more red hot tips for committed couples looking to amplify intimacy.



Question 1: Doesn't familiarity with the same partner make sex get boring eventually?


Answer: On the contrary! While it may seem counterintuitive, research shows that the more sex long term partners have, the more satisfying it becomes over time as they become intimately attuned to each other's desires and responses. Let each other know you both see a great sex life as a priority in your relationship,


Question 2: Can monogamy work for couples struggling with mismatched libidos?


Answer: Open communication about differences in sex drive coupled with a mutual commitment to meet each other's needs through compromise is key. There are many ways to pleasure a partner that don't require intercourse. Prioritize intimacy even on low desire days.


Question 3: How do you keep sexual desire alive long-term when only having sex with the same partner?


Answer: Prioritize intimacy through daily affection, erotic rituals like kissing/massages and creative encounters through toys, role plays, new locations and atmospheres to prevent habituation.


Question 4: Does my monogamous relationship need to be legally married with rings and everything to reap these sexy benefits?


Answer: Not at all! You can absolutely commit to and thrive in a sexually exclusive partnership without making it officially official on paper. What matters most is that you are both consciously choosing each other as sole romantic and sexual partners.


Question 5: How can I bring more intimacy into my long-term relationship?


Answer: Make spending quality time together sharing thoughts, feelings and new experiences a priority. Recommit to truly listening and being present with your partner. Explore each other's erogenous zones leisurely without pressure. Surprise them with romantic gestures. The emotional connection fuels desire!

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With Love,


Kelley & Joshua



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